Facing an unexpected pregnancy can be an overwhelming experience for both partners. As a man, your support, understanding, and active involvement can significantly impact your partner’s well-being during this time.

How Can I Help My Partner And Myself Right Now?

You and your partner are likely both feeling overwhelmed, uncertain, and anxious about the future. This is understandable, but there are steps you can take to help you and your partner gain some clarity and take steps forward.

Open Communication:

Communication is crucial. Create a safe space for your partner to express her feelings, fears, and concerns. Listen actively and empathetically without judgment. Share your feelings and thoughts as well, fostering mutual understanding and support.

Questions to Consider:

• How does she feel about the pregnancy?
• What are her concerns and fears?
• What are your thoughts and feelings?
• If our thoughts and feelings don’t align, how can I be supportive while still expressing my own concerns?

Provide Emotional Support:

An unexpected pregnancy can bring a whirlwind of emotions. Offer your emotional support by being present and reassuring. Let her know that she is not alone and that you are in this together.

Ways to Offer Emotional Support:

• Be patient and understanding
• Offer words of encouragement and reassurance
• Spend quality time together to strengthen your bond
• If you two don’t agree, let her know that you’re still there for her

Educate Yourself:

Take the initiative to learn about pregnancy, prenatal care, and the pregnancy options that are available. Understanding what your partner is going through can help you provide better support and make informed decisions together.

Resources to Consider:

• Books and articles on pregnancy and prenatal care
• Reputable websites and online resources
• Healthcare providers and prenatal classes
• Educational opportunities to learn more about parenting

Participate in Decision-Making:

Be actively involved in discussing and exploring the options available, whether it’s parenting, adoption, or considering an abortion. Respect her autonomy and support her decisions, even if you don’t agree with what your partner is leaning toward. (If she is wanting an abortion and you don’t agree, it’s important to help her understand the risks and emotional implications so that she can make an educated decision.)

Steps to Take:

• Research and discuss all available options together with your partner
• Attend medical appointments together
• Consider seeking counseling or professional guidance

Offer Practical Help:

Practical support can ease the stress of an unexpected pregnancy. Assist with daily tasks, help her with prenatal care, and ensure she has access to necessary resources.

Ways to Offer Practical Help:

• Help with household chores and errands
• Ensure she has access to nutritious food and prenatal vitamins
• Accompany her to medical appointments and prenatal classes

Plan for the Future:

Discuss and plan for the future together. Whether you decide to parent, pursue adoption, or another option, having a plan can provide clarity and reduce anxiety.

Topics to Discuss:

• Financial planning and budgeting
• Living arrangements and childcare options
• Long-term goals and aspirations

You’re Not Alone

Facing an unexpected pregnancy can feel scary, but you and your partner aren’t alone in this. We’re here for you.

Contact us today to learn about all the ways we’re here to help. (We offer free STD testing for you and your partner, which is an essential step for protecting your and your partner’s health right now.)